|
Page 2 of 2
Where can you meet people?
The answer is just about anywhere. I know one friend met his wife after he accidentally spilled soup on her at a checkout line.
Some common locations suggested include
- Health clubs and educational courses
Dance clubs and bars are possible locations but tend to be less satisfactory places to meet people. The key is usually to be in a place where you are likely to meet someone with similar interests. If you are a parent, you will be meeting other parents through your kids school and community.
Hopefully you feel comfortable in letting people know you are a single parent and sooner or later you will meet other singles this way. Get involved in bake sales or other activities related to school and community. Its a great way to build up your support network, to make new friends and to meet new potential partners.
What to say
These guidelines should be used whether you make contact in person, on the phone or online. Pickup lines can be funny and good stories to tell to your mates but they show little imagination and little personality. Be yourself and be polite. Think ahead of time about a conversation piece.
Using a conversation piece 
A conversation piece is a topic you pick based on something about the person or situation and about which you speak naturally. An example could be a distinctive ring or necklace. You could ask about a recipe at a supermarket. Even if they don't know, it breaks the ice.
At an evening class, you can ask them to clarify some part of the lesson or comment on their work. Some people go as far as to have some conversation piece with them to encourage others to talk to them. An example might be pumpkin earrings around Halloween time.
Listen
Keep the conversation short and natural and make it two-way. If you are doing all the talking and no listening, most likely you are not going to make a connection. Make a note of their name when they tell it to you. Nothing is worse than forgetting some-one's name and you are going on a date with them. Judge if the other person is acting interested or not. If not, take the hint and withdraw gracefully.
|
