Ways to get your kid to open up to you

 Go for a walk in your local park

Keep the conversation light. Allow pauses that your child might fill in and start sharing with you. Movement can help comfort a child and help them open up. Try hiking or camping for a more energetic experience which can build stronger bonds.

Using car time

Time is precious and time in the car is often not utilized. Use it to let your kid talk about what's going on in their life. The best trick is to turn off the radio and stay quiet. Most kids will start to talk. Some may think they are in trouble if it's new to them so reassure them that they are not. You can try a general "how was your day?" but often you just get a "fine". Take your time. Once they get used to it, they will chat away when they get in the car. Make sure you warn them that you are almost there so they are not disappointed when the story has to stop

Using other approaches

Silence not working?

• Tell them about your day

• Tell them about a problem you had with a friend or colleague (nothing embarrassing in case your child repeats it elsewhere). Often this can inspire your child to tell you about a problem they had

• Ask your child what they think should be done or how they might solve a problem

• Ask about other kids e.g. who is the tallest or who is the best in the class?

• Tell them a funny story from your childhood or your school days

• Tell them a funny story about their antics when they were younger