What not to do

• Do not go to places that remind you of your ex

• Do not stay at home day after day

• Do not spend your time trying to figure out what to do with your life

• Do not try to analyze what went wrong

• Do not over indulge in food or drink

Still focusing on the negative things?

Distraction

Distract your mind. Find something like a book or film and absorb yourself in it.

Thought stopping

Imagine a big stop sign dropping whenever you start thinking negatively

Use music

Play happy music. It doesn't have to be holiday music but it must be upbeat.

Sing

Singing is remarkably like screaming (especially for those of us who can't sing). It releases the tension and can change your mood even if you do not feel like it at first. Want to really let loose. Get in the car and turn the radio all the way up. Sing at the top of your lungs.

Positive imagery

Imagine a peaceful happy place. Picture yourself there and imagine all the details. Look around and build up the scene in your mind.

Affirmations

Read life affirming books or messages.

Day by day

Start the day saying that you are going to put your worries and negative thoughts to one side for today. Actively push them to one side (you can visualize this if it helps). Write your worries down on pieces of paper and put them in a container and put the lid on. This act allows them to be expressed and you are symbolically putting them to one side.