Depression after your divorce
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  • Depression is an illness
  • Genetics can play some role
  • Can be triggered by major life events including divorce
  • Get professional help
  • Depression can be successfully treated

Depression is an illness

Depression is an illness and is not temporarily feeling "blue".

Symptoms include

  • Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood

  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism

  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness

  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex

  • Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down"

  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions

  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping

  • Appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain

  • Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts

  • Restlessness, irritability

  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

Source: National Institute of Mental Health

Statistics

In any given 1-year period, 9.5 percent of the population, or about 20.9 million American adults, suffer from a depressive illness1.

Causes Depressed man

Some types of depression run in families, suggesting that a biological vulnerability can be inherited. Not everyone with the genetic vulnerability will develop the disease suggesting that additional factors play a role.

People who have low self-esteem, who consistently view themselves and the world with pessimism or who are readily overwhelmed by stress, are prone to depression. Whether this represents a psychological predisposition or an early form of the illness is not clear.

A serious loss, difficult relationship, financial problem, or any stressful (unwelcome or even desired) change in life patterns can trigger a depressive episode. Very often, a combination of genetic, psychological, and environmental factors is involved in the onset of a depressive disorder. Later episodes of illness typically are precipitated by only mild stresses, or none at all.

Divorce is a highly stressful life event. This can trigger depression by itself or the stress from subsequent pressures such as parenting alone or financial problems can act as the trigger.

Depression is not something you can shake off or think your way out of.

 


 

Who depression affects

Women experience depression about twice as often as men.  Many hormonal factors may contribute to the increased rate of depression in women particularly such factors as menstrual cycle changes, pregnancy, miscarriage, postpartum period, pre-menopause, and menopause. Many women also face additional stresses such as responsibilities both at work and home, single parenthood, and caring for children and for aging parents.

Many women are also particularly vulnerable after the birth of a baby. The hormonal and physical changes, as well as the added responsibility of a new life, can be factors that lead to postpartum depression in some women.

Although men are less likely to suffer from depression than women, 6 million men in the United States are affected by the illness. Men are less likely to admit to depression, and doctors are less likely to suspect it. The rate of suicide in men is four times that of women, though more women attempt it. In fact, after age 70, the rate of men's suicide rises, reaching a peak after age 85.

Depression can also affect the physical health in men differently from women. A new study shows that, although depression is associated with an increased risk of coronary heart disease in both men and women, only men suffer a high death rate

Depression in kids Depressed kid

Only in the past two decades has depression in children been taken very seriously.

The depressed child may

  • pretend to be sick

  • refuse to go to school

  • cling to a parent

  • worry that the parent may die

Older children may

  • sulk

  • get into trouble at school

  • be negative

  • grouchy

  • feel misunderstood

Because normal behaviors vary from one childhood stage to another, it can be difficult to tell whether a child is just going through a temporary "phase" or is suffering from depression. Sometimes the parents become worried about how the child's behavior has changed, or a teacher mentions that "your child doesn't seem to be himself."

In such a case, if a visit to the child's pediatrician rules out physical symptoms, the doctor will probably suggest that the child be evaluated, preferably by a psychiatrist who specializes in the treatment of children. If treatment is needed, the doctor may suggest that another therapist, usually a social worker or a psychologist, provide therapy while the psychiatrist will oversee medication if it is needed.

Parents should not be afraid to ask questions:

  • What are the therapist's qualifications?

  • What kind of therapy will the child have?

  • Will the family as a whole participate in therapy?

  • Will my child's therapy include an antidepressant?

  • If so, what might the side effects be?

Evaluation and Treatment

You should start with a physical exam. Some physical illness can cause depressive symptoms. If a physical cause for the depression is ruled out, a psychological evaluation should be done, by the physician or by referral to a psychiatrist or psychologist.

Treatment choice will depend on the outcome of the evaluation. There are a variety of antidepressant medications and psychotherapies that can be used to treat depressive disorders. Some people with milder forms may do well with psychotherapy alone.

People with moderate to severe depression most often benefit from antidepressants. Most do best with combined treatment: medication to gain relatively quick symptom relief and psychotherapy to learn more effective ways to deal with life's problems, including depression.

More detailed information can be found in the
National Institute of Mental Health's article on depression

1. Robins LN, Regier DA (Eds). Psychiatric Disorders in America, The Epidemiologic Catchment Area Study, 1990; New York: The Free Press